Let’s Talk About You and Me
Let’s Talk About You and Me
Love is a beautiful thing, it fills us with butterflies, warm fuzzy feelings and unbridled passion. Those feelings are all you really need in the beginning of a new relationship – that connection and chemistry overpowering anything and everything else. Things that might usually bother us are forgotten in it’s haze. It’s when that emotion transitions into the possibility of something deeper and longer lasting that we have to work harder.
Relationships should be a partnership, equal parts give and receive regardless of gender and profession. Just like any partnership there needs to be communication – the freedom and security to express our needs, desires, fears and thoughts.We need to make sure that both our partner and ourselves are being heard and communicating our needs and that we’re not taking them for granted. Our partnerships should feel safe, secure and open. My lovely boyfriend always makes me feel so incredibly secure and loved, it’s a wonderful feeling that should be norm in relationship standards rather than rarity. We shouldn’t settle or compromise ourselves just so that we’re not alone.
Our partner can never be the solution to our problems or the solitary source of our happiness. They can be part of your team and lend you comfort and support in your pursuits but they can never be the answer. In life the responsibility for our own lives falls upon our own shoulders – shoulders built for that very task. As with in any team it’s important to appreciate and to be appreciated – being taken for granted in a relationship leads to feelings of dissatisfaction and hurt.
At Conquering Life we believe that internality and communication are key in happiness and essential in lasting and fulfilling relationships. A good relationship comes from learning about one another and giving each other space to be themselves. Recently I was talking to a friend who instead of being straight with their partner about being upset, their partner hadn’t been making very much time for them recently, they were waiting to see if their partner would notice. Essentially a game in which no one is the winner. I asked, ‘Why not just tell them, what is the worst thing that could happen?’ They responded that they could get broken up with. I then responded by asking if they would really want to be with someone who you couldn’t talk to about your feelings.
We get so caught up in the idea that we don’t want to lose the person or we get so used to our partner always being there that we end up behaving in unusual ways. I never want to be afraid to tell my boyfriend something nor do I want him to feel like he can’t address his feelings or even grievances if he has any. So many things can be resolved with healthy communication, it might take work but the result is worth it! Sometimes all it takes to Conquer Life is communicating and checking in with yourself and those around you.
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